Monday, February 21, 2011

A. Label-lover B. Label-loather C. Label-confused

Labels make the world go around.


It's how we navigate through life; we categorise and we sub-categorise things, people and places based on our interactions with them, then we encounter new things and slot them into the categories according to perceived similarities with the stuff we already know.

Labels are what keep us healthy




And help us to locate potentially satisfying sexual partners




Without labels and categories we would all be mush-brained non-functional blobs.

Of course, categories can be damaging. Over the years they can become hardened and inflexible, preventing the lateral flow of ideas and trapping things, people, places and sometimes entire races in deep dark chasms.

No-one wants to be an oppressor – actually that’s not true, I’m forgetting the whole (rather large) megalomaniac, power-hungry category of society...


...but they’re a rather nice category to forget so I’ll just continue.

Ahem. No one wants to be an oppressor and it can often be tempting to try to cast off labels and do away with judgements.

The problem is, if we don’t make day to day judgement calls the results can be impractical and even a little hairy.

...As I found out as a teenager when I decided a nice old safety pin would be good for piercing my ear.

I’d had one piercing already and knew that what was required was a sharp implement → sub-category: metal → sub-sub-category: pointy. Unfortunately my judgement system was not highly evolved enough to take me to the all-important sub-sub-sub-category of sterilized.

I totally misjudged that ol’ safety pin because I didn't restrict its possible uses with stringent enough categorising & now I have a little black bump on my ear lobe to remind me. But at least I was utilising some sort of category system and wasn’t trying to put a hole in my ear with a hammer or some shit.


In short, labels and categorising are vital for practical interaction with the world so I’m afraid, cunts, that we’re gonna have to pull ourselves up out of that quaint little contradictory category of ‘non-judgemental people’ and own up to the fact that we are intrinsically and fundamentally judgemental creatures by necessity.

Members of the Gay community, or, as I should say the GLBTI (Gay, Lesbian, Bi-Sexual, Transgender, Intersex) community, are all over labels. You may now file them away in the ‘label experts’ category in your mind.

Most hetero women I know simply identify themselves as straight females and loll back in this broad category, slipping straight into it from their mother’s cunts, sure that that is where they belong because their genitals go in, not out and they’d like to rub them up against genitals which go out and not in.

For Lesbians it seems rather more complicated. Many don’t identify themselves simply as gay females but file themselves into a ton of other sub-categories based on attitudes, inclinations and behaviours. And there are TONS. I know of gay women who identify as Femme, Butch, Bi, Trans, Babydyke, Queer, Sportydyke, Tops, Bottoms, Gold-star lesbian, Blue-jean femme, Truckerdyke, Lipstick lesbian, Chapstick lesbian, Stone butch, Soft butch and Boi. I guess that once you get to the point of figuring out how to exist in a society where your sexual orientation is in the minority, you’ve done a lot of thinking about gender and have built up quite a bit of knowledge. So, just as Eskimos have a kazillion words for snow, queer folk have a kazillion for gender. We are THE gender experts!

All of this intricate knowledge is beautiful and enriching but sometimes, sometimes, I wish it could all just be a bit less complex. I don’t want to restrict myself by defining myself too closely; I almost want to go back to the simple unquestioning category of ‘female’ alone. Mush brain longing!

Fortunately there seems to be a fair bit of fluidity between the various categories, most gay women I know say ‘Welll, I’m a little from column A, a little from column B, and sometimes, when I’m drunk and have watched an excessive number of Justin Beiber music clips, I might go in for a bit of column F’.

This is just as well, ‘cause I wanna sleep with women and I wanna dress tough one day and glam the next and paint my toe-nails and use power-tools and do crochet and swear and have facials and razor my hair and grow it long and ride in a bike gang and wear high heels and maybe have kids some day or maybe not and make music and arrrrt and fall in love and for it not to last forever so I can fall in love with someone else later. I want all of the experiences of being a female, of being human, ALL of them. I just hope I don’t end up hitting myself in the ear with a hammer as I try to navigate my way.

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Users guide to insulting ME

Okay, so we're all in agreement, there's nothing even vaguely offensive about cunts. There may come a time, though, when you want to insult me, even though I'm totally awesome and faultless and stuff - maybe that pisses you off. What are you gonna do? Obviously calling me a fucking cunt ain't gonna cut it.

Don't fret! My masochistic tendencies have compelled me to create a (non-exhaustive) list of words which I find offensive. Please use sparingly, I'm feeling fragile.

1. Cuddles

Ewwwwwwww! No I do not want to cuddle you coochie coochie coo.


You may hug me or hold me but if you think you're gonna start trying any of that 'cuddle' shit on I'll ask you to kindly exit the bed. Excellent break-up technique, future lovers! You won't be asked back.

2. Rotarian

Rotary is, of course, a pompous male-dominated business club designed to keep wealth in the hands of those who've had it forever under the guise of doing good deeds. Rotarians monopolise business activities in towns to the detriment of entrepreneurs who aren't white enough or old enough or male enough or boring enough to join their back-patting brethren. They do this while wearing hideous eye-hurting blazers and vests, adding injury to insult, you may say. Occasionally they put a natty little plaque on park bench.
In short, they suck. Call me one and I will punch you in the nose. Hard.

3. Boobies
An ex-lover referred to part of my anatomy in this manner. EX.


In the words of the inimitable Joan Jett: 'Girls have balls too, they're just higher up'. Start calling those balls 'boobies' and we'll prove it.

K. Think that's about all I can handle for today - I'm not a punching bag you know!

To be continued...

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

A cunt by any other name would taste as sweet


I've been getting my craft on a bit lately at Melbourne's Queer Stitch 'n' Bitch. It's held twice a month in Fitzroy, lovely people & all inclusive - even extending to stitch hacks like me . & look! I done made a thing already!

Check out their facebook group .x.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

I support getting hitched, even with all its hitches

I won’t say that I’ll never get married for the same reason I strongly believe I’ll never get married. And that reason is that I believe that making a decision at one point in time which will unnecessarily over-ride all subsequent decisions at later points until you cark it is depressing, limiting and bloody stupid.

Besides, at this point in time, I believe that if I fall in love it will be with a woman so we wouldn’t be allowed to get married. This completely sucks. Even though the likelihood of me wanting to get hitched is super-slim it is my right as much as it is the right of any other human. And plenty of gay people personally want to be able to marry a spouse a lot more than I do so let’s hurry up & get the law changed already. Honestly, humanity evolves culturally at such a slow pace it makes my teeth itch.

Then we can get on to replacing the ‘till death do we part nonsense with something much more beautiful & true like ‘till ever we change our minds.

Equal Love rallies will be held around the nation this Saturday 20th, Nov at 1pm. Melbourne's is at the State Library.

Friday, August 6, 2010

TELLY!!!

Recently I was honoured to be invited by the International Womens Development Agency to create a textile piece for an exhibition to celebrate their 25th anniversary.  The Agency is very ace, working in partnership with struggling women from the Asia-Pacific region to help them help their communities.

I worked with artist Ann Maher & together we created a series of collage/embroidery pieces, one of which will be shown at the exhibition & which I will post a pic of here when I figure out how to work my camera computer doovie.

In the meantime check out my appearance on DAYTIME TELLY (!!!) with former IWDA president Colleen Clare.



All the pieces can be seen at the IWDA's birthday on Thurs 12 August at Fitzroy Town hall & will then be travelling around the country - check 'em out! 

Monday, July 12, 2010

Thank you, Generic Viagra, and other gentle readers

It's always makes me so happy when people let me know that they have connected with something I've written. A little comment at the end of a post can really brighten a day which is why this comment from Generic Viagra following my 'I'm never playing ping-pong again' post caused me so much delight:

generic viagra says...

Life is very hard,it's amazing how women try to get money so easy with older men, I wonder that think, because they do this type of crime...so is life, this is how you make money easy

Generic may not be a person, exactly, and it may have inversed the argument of my article, but I guess it's to be expected that some meaning will be lost in the human to machine translation. In any case, the comment made me smile so thank you readers - spambots and breathers all .x.

Monday, July 5, 2010

Double Your Wardrobe OVERNIGHT! Ask me how!

I've always thought that lesbianism would be a good move, from a clothing perspective. And it's true! Having a girlfriend means that I now have a partner who smells lovely, doesn't give me stubble rash, can lend me tampons & lipstick if I forget mine &, most delightfully, has doubled my wardrobe.

Knits & jackets & slacks & heels. It's all very wonderful, I highly recommend it.